How do we get pass the BS?

[coyoteblack]

I look at how I was growing up the role models that I looked up to was far from the greatest, when in hindsight I should have been looking more towards my Grandfather he personified what a man should be... He gave no measure or complain just did what he had to do to take care of his family, if it's working two jobs or three he did it no fuss, no problem... I never heard him cuss call my Granni a B*** or dog her in any way , she was his Queen and he was her King..

I look at these other guys today, who think by acting a fool and bragging out loud who's nuts hangs closer to the floor makes you a man..They have no respect for themselves and definitely no respect for others.. Do you really think that being a man is acting more like an animal and less than a man.. What does it take to be a man and leave BS behind.. We all have dicks we all had pussy, its all the same.. You brag about how much p**** you get, it will always be someone who had or gets more... We all can have children but its the ones who take care of their responsibility that truly counts...

You can define a man by the way he acts and his actions... You can define a Child in a mans body also by the way he acts or his actions...

So how are we going to act today when the World is changing around us? Can we be better men? We have a African American Family as the first family. The only one's that can bring us down is us. So how do we grow as a people.

How do we work to become better Men and Women? When our perception of each other is so distorted....

Does anyone have any feed back ?

[Queeny]

you have brought up some of the best points i've seen on here.... in the past 5 years LOL

Welllll funny thing is i'm going to say here what i was telling Icey just yesterday..... for BOTH men and women I think the first step is to quit worrying about blaming people .... and take responsibility for yourself. Someone I know is only concerned with blaming her parents for EVERY problem she has. I understand your parents have a HUGE part in shaping you your mentality your behaviour but dont hold them responsible for everything wrong in your life. That's just an example of course. I think ppl are TOO focused on pointing fingers and trying to put the blame on others for THEIR issues to make themselves feel better instead of realising that WHO caused the issue is not as important as how to overcome it..... and until a person can come to terms with knowing that pointing fingers will NOT solve the issue they will continue to deal with bs..... the only way to overcome it is to say you know what?? it may or may not be my fault but i need to figure out a SOLUTION rather than a cause.

[coyoteblack]

you have brought up some of the best points i've seen on here.... in the past 5 years LOL

Welllll funny thing is i'm going to say here what i was telling Icey just yesterday..... for BOTH men and women I think the first step is to quit worrying about blaming people .... and take responsibility for yourself. Someone I know is only concerned with blaming her parents for EVERY problem she has. I understand your parents have a HUGE part in shaping you your mentality your behaviour but dont hold them responsible for everything wrong in your life. That's just an example of course. I think ppl are TOO focused on pointing fingers and trying to put the blame on others for THEIR issues to make themselves feel better instead of realising that WHO caused the issue is not as important as how to overcome it..... and until a person can come to terms with knowing that pointing fingers will NOT solve the issue they will continue to deal with bs..... the only way to overcome it is to say you know what?? it may or may not be my fault but i need to figure out a SOLUTION rather than a cause.


Thanks Queeny you do have a lot of intelligent members on this board... And you are right by owning up and not pointing fingers and focus on the solution, not caring on the cause shows a depth of maturity ....

[Icey]

Haha we fully were just talking about it lol...

Queeny is 100% right, and what I was telling her is that some people are simply not strong enough to put it behind them, and the older you get the more you realize certain things.

For example I grew up with no father, and all my adolesence I was always saying that in affected me in no way at all, and now that Im older and in a serious relationship...I realize it has and damaged me in A LOT of ways. But again time is gone and Im not gonna sit ther and cry how I had no daddy...I just gotta keep going and find ways to deal with it.

I agree with Q too about you Coyote, I always love ur posts. To ur questions, I think the main thing that has been complitely lost is RESPECT.

Men got no respect for women or themselves, women got no respect for men or themselves also...children got no respect for their parents or teachers or elders...no respect for nothing. I dont think any relationship can thrive without it and that's just not there.

[FuriouStylez]

how did i know the white girls would be the first ones to reply to this thread?

[ebmobley]

It is hard to have qualified role models when all the values have been lost. Kids don't know who to look up to because of all the garbage thrown at them.