Domestic violence

[coyoteblack]

I never really understood domestic violence because if a person does something to you in a relationship or marriage, my consensuses is to leave and find somewhere else to go .. I know some people feel they don't have that luxury or just to scared to leave but I can not understand a person willing to be with a person that abuses them..... I had a step-father (Milton) who literally beat the shytt out of me broke my jaw and blacken my eyes shut (I did and still have a smart mouth) but that gave him no reason to put me in the Hospital(that's way I don't want no person to lay their hands on me, if you want to keep those hands) To my pleasure my mother left his ass.. She didn't defend him or gave a reason why I deserve that(which is non)...

I just don't get it, once should be enough, once should make you more aware of the signs of a persons behavior.. I know no one ask for what happens to them but if you stay and defend that person, then is kilt due to your ignorance to face the truth... Then what is a person to do? When you want even save yourself..

Somebody school me, give me some insight......

[ur_next_ex]

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[Razor_Reigns]

^^^ :lol:

[shadow]

I simply look at it as some people don't know how to properly release that anger they may have or whatever emotion it may be. I think it just gets to the point that it erupts in to a fight with that person, it may not be what the person really wants to do but the lose contol. Bu then you also have people who are simply abusive by nature that seemingly get a kick out of putting their hands on a significant other.

[123]

If your askin (which I'm sure you are) why do the abused stay with their abuser, then I got to point to the emotion attachment. The human mind is a complex entity and human emotions...sheesh...let's not even get started...

I think ppl who are abused and stay with their spouse are vulerable. let's look at the perspective of a man beating on a woman. She won't leave, not because she is scared (I never believe ppl when they say that), by she's afraid to lose something she not used to or never had. Whether it be securtiy the someone 'cares' for you or the emotional attachment or, hell. sex...

That's why if afraid of being in love. I was sprung a female when I was in high school (17yo) and though it was 3 yrs ago, I cring at some of the things I did for her and the stuff I took from her. Mind you, we were never in a relationship and she was sleeping with someone while I was tryna get with her and I let her string me along...:no: :puke:

I still feel sick and stupid over that...

But think this is a instance when you need to keep family (I'm talking real family) close to you and apart of your decision making. They are there to provide that love or whatever's missing from your life. That can prevent you from being taken advantage of. I feel sorry for ppl who don't have a dependable family; that just screws you for life...

[witherspoon1]

If a person needs space give it to them.. Period!!! If somebody is angry don't be a smart A$$. You are just aggrivating the situation and nothing positive will come of it.

[Rambo]

if it comes to the point that either one is hitting the other, whether it be the man or the woman, they do not need to be with each other. be adults about and talk it out. communication is the key.

[Hour Of Chaos]

Because of an unfortunate incident that I was involved in, back in my college days, I have absolutely no sympathy for women who choose to stay in abusive relationships!

[Lovely]

If a person needs space give it to them.. Period!!! If somebody is angry don't be a smart A$$. You are just aggrivating the situation and nothing positive will come of it.

People who are abused are not acting smart ass.

If your askin (which I'm sure you are) why do the abused stay with their abuser, then I got to point to the emotion attachment. The human mind is a complex entity and human emotions...sheesh...let's not even get started...

I think ppl who are abused and stay with their spouse are vulerable. let's look at the perspective of a man beating on a woman. She won't leave, not because she is scared (I never believe ppl when they say that), by she's afraid to lose something she not used to or never had. Whether it be securtiy the someone 'cares' for you or the emotional attachment or, hell. sex...

That's why if afraid of being in love. I was sprung a female when I was in high school (17yo) and though it was 3 yrs ago, I cring at some of the things I did for her and the stuff I took from her. Mind you, we were never in a relationship and she was sleeping with someone while I was tryna get with her and I let her string me along...:no: :puke:

I still feel sick and stupid over that...

But think this is a instance when you need to keep family (I'm talking real family) close to you and apart of your decision making. They are there to provide that love or whatever's missing from your life. That can prevent you from being taken advantage of. I feel sorry for ppl who don't have a dependable family; that just screws you for life...

Exactly.
There's self esteem issues, the feeling of not deserving better or being afraid to not find any better and very often the abusers will give their women such nice moments and compliments, that for a vulnerable woman it would make it feel all worth it. All that pain for feeling loved just a few minutes.

That's why we should all love each other, love our family, our neighbors, everybody, we all need love and when we have missed, especially growing up, well....

Let's understand and love each other.
Being on the topic of love, Happy Valentine's day everybody, let's spread the love :lovesmily:

[collegedropout]

It's a sensitive and deep issue, but once you can control someone mentally, the physical is an easy task...

[Q-ROCK]

I've been through it and it's a bitch. As a child you never understand why daddy would hit momma especially in plain view of his children. At the time daddy was drinking way too much and momma didn't know when to shut up.....bad combo! I've manage to talk to my pops about that a few years back and with a tear in his eye he said.....I was angry all the time, like a time boom waiting to go off......then i found Christ, and our lives got better............he's still my hero.